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I Will Not Wean My 3-Year-Old

By Abby Theuring, MSW

I’ve heard that I should have weaned Jack before Exley came along. I have heard that I am raising a spoiled brat by breastfeeding my toddler. I have heard that it’s disgusting, that he’s too old, that he’ll have psychological problems. I’ve heard that I’m doing it for my own needs and not his.


Whenever we leave the house I keep Exley in the wrap. It has been complicated continuing to nurse Jack on demand since my breasts are covered by the wrap. Jack’s nursing has increased since the birth of his little brother. He has shown me that he needs me more than ever. He has shown me that now is not the right time to make major changes. It’s important to me that we make this work. I found that I canΒ slide Exley slightly to one side and pull my boob out the opposite side. Jack can latch on and sit on my lap. It’s not pretty. It’s not like those photos you see of women breastfeeding in a meadow. This is not a photo shoot. This is my life. This is real. This is me and my 2 sons hobbling our way into a new normal. It’s sloppy. It’s awkward. It’s the most important thing I do. Every single day.


I will work to make room on my lap for Jack. I will work to make him feel welcome at my breast. I will work to make him feel that the safest place to him on earth hasn’t been completely taken away. This is not easy. I’ve been hanging on by a thread to my breastfeeding relationship with Jack since I got pregnant. I’ve struggled with everything from pregnancy hormones, to breast pain, to sever nursing aversion, to plain old touched out. This isn’t the way to do it. It’s just our way.Β I will continue to work until it doesn’t work anymore. And then we will figure out our new way. But I will not wean my 3-year-old.




  1. Elizabeth says

    My youngest daughter just turned two and we are still happily breast feeding. Just the other day I mentioned this to a group of friends. Their reactions ranged from confusion to disgust. Needless to say, it was not encouraging. Thank you for sharing your story and your photos, which are beautiful, by the way! (Meadows are overrated for nursing in.)

    • Chiggers!!

    • I nursed my sleeping daughter in the woods while my husband was deer hunting. She slept through the entire thing. I fed her dinner while he got mine. Lol

    • Nicole Dunn says

      Oh Abby! I LOVE what you wrote! The last picture of you three is beyond precious! I’m still nursing Daniel at almost 2 years old. I’m nursing him as I type. Hehe love you guys. You’re a Badass inspiration! Xoxo, Nicole and Daniel

    • It’s wonderful to nurse! Mine is three and we did the nursing on demand. I live in a busy metropolitan area so I have nursed him pretty much everywhere. Interestingly, I have yet to hear or come across a single anti-nursing sentiment or expression of anything negative, even from strangers. Now I am ready to wean even though he still is going strong lol. So we are slowly stopping little by little. Best to you.

  2. I like the Mobi wrap idea. My daughter is also 3 years old and now that my son is 4 months old, the tandem nursing positioning is getting to be more of a challenge. (The baby is so wiggly now.) I feel guilty because I have had to tell her “no” or to wait until I can put the baby down and get him settled. Now that he has begun teething, he needs more comfort/holding/nursing. I’m definitely going to try using the Mobi. I think it will help with my current situation. Thanks!!

    • Deb Bowman says

      My son when he had to “wait” for his baby sister would nurse his teddy bear πŸ™‚ He would look at me like he was doing the most important thing in the world, he was so proud!!!!!

  3. That is so comforting to read, gives me hope that I can do it too. My daughter is 17mo and still nurses on demand as well as when I ask her so I can sit down and have a break from running after her. I am 22 weeks pregnant and am hoping to tandem nurse my girls!! Although my nipples are tender right now we are working through it and am ready to work through whatever challenges come our way!!

  4. Amber Rosa says

    I thank you for this article. More and more I hear the same things about my now 3 year old daughter. I tell everyone that when she is ready she will wean herself. And then, of course, I hear “oh, that will never happen.” “She’s going to be in your boob until high school.” Anywho I just really appreciate the article, it’s nice when I get to hear from other mothers who long term nurse.

  5. This is absolutely a beautiful photo! Enjoy that momma milk, Jack! And Exley too…

  6. Cassidy Hood says

    Abby, those pictures are gorgeous! What could be more gorgeous than a mommy feeding and nuturing her babies πŸ™‚

  7. love it; keep taking care of those two and leave the haters behind! maybe someday they will catch up. it IS beautiful and it is real. you got it mama!

  8. My son is 2 and 3 months we are not nursing. He self weaned at 13 months and I still to this day miss it and wish he still nursed. More when he’s not feeling well or his feelings are hurt and he wont let me comfort him. you keep on doing what works for you guys.

  9. Heather R says

    You’re doing amazing! Keep it up. πŸ™‚ All of your photos are beautiful by the way.
    My daughter is 3 1/2 & self-weaned around 14-15 months when I got pregnant with my son. When he was born, she attempted nursing again, but never got the latch right & after a few attempts, didn’t want to try anymore, though I would have been happy to nurse them both.
    My son is now 19 months & nursing 3-5 times a day & I don’t see him weaning anytime soon. He loves his numnuhs!

  10. Good for you! I don’t understand why people feel entiled to give their opinion on such personal matter, you do not need to explain yourself. If you want to breastfeed your babies until they self-wean then do so and nobody should care. I am so jealous I can’t do that, my daughter is 9 months old and I will return to work soon, so I have to make it work, I will Continue to feed her expresses BM and BF when I am present, and Oh how I
    Wish I could continue to BF on demand. You do what’s best for your LOs.

  11. Such an encouraging post. I have a sweet 16 month old, who loves to nurse, and I’m 14 weeks pregnant and plan to tandem nurse. I’ve already heard the gammat, “she’s still nursing!”, “you are weaning her before the next baby arrives, right?!”, and “there is no way you can nurse two! It’s not fair to the baby!”. I am so glad I have resources like the badass breastfeeder and other breastfeeding forums, I have the knowledge to be able to smile and respond with facts and evidence that promote long term breastfeeding and tandem nursing.

    • I am still nursing my little girl who turns 4 in April 2020 and I feel so much better after reading this so thank you for that!

  12. Your pictures are so beautiful!! While I will never get the opportunity to tandem nurse, I am always in awe of moms who do it. I also have a toddler, a 32 month old daughter, who is still nursing. I’ve written a lot about nursing a toddler on my blog, and how much I love it. It is a lot less complicated than nursing a newborn, in some ways. It can also be kind of unpredictable also. . . some days my daughter only nurses for a couple minutes, and other days it is like she is obsessed with my boobs! I loved your post the other day about the stranger in the safe place. My son was four when I had my daughter, and even though he was a little older, the transition was really hard, and still is hard on a lot of days. But your post made me look at it through my son’s eyes in a new way, which was helpful. I’ve been reading and enjoying your posts a lot, especially since I am also a social worker and huge breast feeding advocate. I would be honored if you would stop by Momaste sometime!

  13. Devon Wible says

    Beautiful! Thank you for sharing, and for giving your sons exactly what they need regardless of what other people think/say.

  14. Michelle says

    My kids are 24 and nearly 22; they’re 2 1/2 years apart. The first was still nursing when the second came along. It wasn’t this amazing, wonderful thing every single moment. Sometimes it was hard. But yeah, No. 1 DID wean herself when she was ready. No. 2 weaned himself with a tiny bit of encouragement. He admired the Batman cakes at the grocery store bakery, and when he was nearly 4 I suggested we have a weaning party, with a Batman cake, when he was ready to wean. He decided he was ready. He weaned that week, and we did have a weaning party, and it was great. He was happy about it. And guess what? Both kids turned out great. I’m happy with how I raised them. My daughter, the 24-year-old, is now nursing her baby.

    Neither is a spoiled brat. They’re wonderful young adults.

  15. Trista W. says

    It’s nice to see this post. My daughter is 27 months old and my son is now 8 weeks old. My daughter has wanted to nurse more often since her brother has come home, in fact she is the one who wakes up in the middle of the night to nurse more then the baby does. She has also regressed and is crying more and throwing temper tantrums more, especially when I try to explain she has to wait a moment to get “milkies”. It’s very hard for me to tandem nurse especially during the day when I am the only one home. I try but it’s rough. I have sore nipples and I get extremely annoyed when both kids are latched at the same time for some reason. It’s refreshing to see I am not alone in the walk in life. I don’t feel now is the time to try to wean my daughter either, I think it would do more harm than good for her but it is a trying time for all 3 of us.

  16. Michelle Thomas says

    So glad you’re still nursing your son πŸ˜‰ He does need his safe place. I nursed my son till he was past 5. He didn’t really want to give it up, but I was done, lol. He is almost 7 and still misses nursies. I also had friends “concerned” my son would be psychologically scarred. I just ignored them, I had read enough from other mothers here and on the mothering.com website to know he would be fine. Thanks to the other Michelle for telling us how her adult children are doing so well πŸ˜‰

  17. My older son was 3.5 was lo came along/ I was still nursing him with no signs of wanting to wean on his part. I tandem nursed for 6 months. He would have kept on but it became very painful for me- his teeth were hurting my breasts. Number three is on the way and I am remembering the positives and negatives about tandem nursing. Lo will be 2.5 when this one comes. I really want him to be able to nurse until he’s four if he wants and then I remember the pain! Keep up the good work! Follow your heart! You know what’s best for those kiddos!!! Thanks!

  18. So inspiring.

  19. Kimberly says

    I will admit that this is weird to me and I personally wouldn’t choose to do it but it’s pretty awesome to think that you and your 3 year old are still very well bonded. Even after having another baby. And it’s incredible to think that there are moms that will do a lot to keep the bonds they have with their children as they make new bonds with new children. I want to congratulate you on your very hard work and determination. There’s not a lot of moms that will even try an breast feed anymore. It’s really sad but again your story is inspiring.

    • I agree with you, Kimberly – I couldn’t do it, and find it “different” than what would be comfortable for me personally, HOWEVER, I would never pass judgement on those who choose to do it. If a mom is comfortable doing it to later ages, then go for it. I would never condemn anyone’s beliefs on it. πŸ™‚

    • Brittany says

      It’s more than just a bond thing too. Breast milk never loses it’s nutritional value, it will always be extremely beneficial for little children πŸ™‚ I love that just because you don’t personally make the choice to BF a toddler, you’re not shaming others for doing so. wish everyone was the same. <3

  20. Thank you so much for sharing in your journey! I am still almost exclusively (minus experimenting with solids) breastfeeding my 10 month old baby girl, and recently found out I’m pregnant again. We are ecstatic, but definitely nervous! I desperately want to keep nursing my girl long into toddlerhood, and I look forward to attempting tandem feeding. Your articles give me hope and encouragement!
    Thank you so much! You are amazing!!

  21. You keep on keepin’ on! You’re amazing!

  22. Tandem nursing is actually a bit of a source of contention these days between my daughter & me. I couldn’t nurse on demand while I was pregnant (it just hurt too much every time she latched), so I got her to cut back to three times a day, which I’ve tried to convince her to stick to, but she still asks for it all. the. time.

    But now this post has me wondering if we’d all be happier if I let her go back to on-demand anyway… Limiting how often she nurses certainly seems to encourage her to ask more often, not encourage her toward weaning.

  23. Teresa Helms says

    You say it’s not pretty…no it’s not. It’s beautiful! Congratulations on your new addition and you will be in my prayers that things will get easier.

  24. I breastfed both of my sons until they were 7 and 7.5 respectively (my daughter only made it to 3.5). I got all kinds of judgement, but that is when they finally weened themselves. Thanks for the story. I’m retired now, but I still have fond memories of breastfeeding my sons.

    • That is amazing! Thanks for posting this! Not sure my patience will allow for 3+ more years of nursing (it’s great, but sometimes i just want my body back…) but it is so great as a nursing mom to hear this πŸ™‚ thanks again, and kudos on the ability/will to do that! Ypu are awesome!

  25. I love this article. My son was one-year-old when I got pregnant, and three months later he weaned himself. When his little sister was born, he decided he wasn’t done after all, and now here we are 15 months later and he is still nursing! He will be three in September. I loved the part in the article when you said that it’s not pretty and it’s sloppy, because you are exactly right! Most days I feel like a jungle gym with both kids clambering on top of me. I get touched out, and sometimes I say mommies boobies are all done! But I wouldn’t change it for the world. I will be here for him until he is ready to stop.

  26. My daughter is turning 3 this week. I am attempting to wean her and it is not going well. I have been preparing her and offering alternatives. It only seems to make her want to nurse more. I would like to be able to sleep through the night. I had hoped she would self ween but no luck. Any advice on making this not traumatic for her would be appreciated.

    • Meredith says

      I was ready to wean my son at 2.5 years old. I placed bandaids over my nipples and told him they were broken. He only asked twice for them and was not upset when he remembered they were “broken”. Lol. So I knew he was also ready. No tears. No complaints. No more nursing. He’s 20 now and we still have a very close relationship.

  27. I find it surprising that you describe your tandem nursing as “awkward.” The first thought that came to my head was how comfortable, well-organized and natural your first picture looked and wondered if i would ever be able to juggle 2 kids in my lap at once

  28. Brittany says

    I only made it 3.5 months into my tandem experience. My 2.5 year old was having awful tummy troubles from nursing and it still breaks my heart that I had to stop her. She still asks on rare occasion, but stopping was the only thing that helped her tummy πŸ™

  29. Virginia says

    My 28 month old daughter is still nursing and shows no signs of wanting to stop. I feel it is not up to me to stop her that she will decide. I don’t care what others think but it is nice to know there are others out there still nursing and tandem too. Thank you

  30. Victoria says

    Thank you for this article! My son is only 16 months and I get this question a lot. I love breastfeeding my baby, especially during high teething times. Also I love looking into those big eyes that look up at me!

  31. My daughter will be three in October and asks to be nursed at nap and bed time. I will let her choose when we wean as I know she really still needs this comfort and self calming time. Thanks for making us feel supported! She loves to see all the pics of babies nursing!

  32. Ashlea Blumenshine says

    Thank you for posting this, I am still nursing my 28 month old daughter on demand and the weaning comments are coming stronger than ever. I will not wean just because someone else did or thinks I should. Weaning will come when my daughter decides not a day sooner.

  33. charlie saarinen says

    Abby~ I think this is the most beautiful thing. You are such an inspiration and thank you so much for all the hard work you have done to make this “normal” to society. My son is 15 months old and still nurses 4-5 times a day, and I fully plan on tandem nursing when we have another baby, if that’s what is right for my son. Thank you for giving me the encouragement in advance πŸ™‚

  34. mother is god

  35. I too nurse my toddler and newborn. Thank you for being honest s about your current life as it allows me to feel ok about mine. Some days are easier than others for sure.

  36. Love it! Every single picture is beautiful and embraces other moms to follow along and normalize breastfeeding. My son is 18 months now and people ask me all the time if I’m still breastfeeding him, and when am I going to stop? I really don’t mind them asking I just tell them yes, and until he is ready to stop. I really enjoy your posts.

  37. cathy connor says

    I dont have any children but if I did I would do whats right for me and my children. Ignore the stupid people and keep doing what you’re doing. Rock on Mama! I support you

  38. I think it’s beautiful;) It’s not always the shot you’d expect from a magazine, but it’s real and it’s beautiful.

  39. bertrand olivier says

    I am a 72 year old man and breast feeding happens not to be my area of expertise even though I fathered 10 children .I read some of things people has said to you and most of them probably doesn’t even have any children. That being said ,I have Always believed that people should do what suits them ,however when we do whatever it is in public we should consider others .I for one don’t t care to see women’s breasts period ,I promote peoples right to smoke but I don’t want to have to inhale their smoke,I promote peoples right to listen to whatever but not so loud that I can’t hear someone next to me talking. I could go on and on and whatever someone wants to do is fine with me but when I have to see ,hear, smell or otherwise involve me in what someone else does is crossing the line. Bottom line ,you can breastfeed your husband if you want to and its nobody’s business but some things are personal and private. Thanks.

    • Then maybe you should stay home more so you don’t have to see, hear, or smell anyone and what they do,

  40. Abby,
    I saw you on the news yesterday and my ears perked up. Thank you for your dedication to empower nursing mothers and toddlers! My grandmother is Mary Ann Cahill, co- founder of La Leche League, who at the age of 87 still sits on the Board of Directors. I am a mother of 3 and tandem nursed my two boys for a 1 1/2 years until my oldest son self weaned at 3 1/2 years old. His younger brother was shortly after diagnosed with Autism and is still non-verbal. With these challenges, my little guy needed to nurse and did so until he was 5 1/2 years old. I became pregnant again and we now have a 6 month old baby girl. We are strong believers in attachment parenting, have a family bed, and nursing for as long as we can. I work full time because of need for my family but thankfully I have breast feeding to connect with my baby everyday (and night). Wouldn’t change it for anything! Thank you for all you do.

  41. Melissa M says

    Thank you for sharing! I have a 18 month year old and am 15 weeks pregnant. I dont want to ween my son, i have always felt strongly about that. But I already hear and feel people trying to pressure me. ” If you nurse him, there wont be enough for the new baby! Do you really think you can nurse two babies?!? Is it even safe to nurse when pregnant?” And so many other discouraging comments. Even the OBGYN wasn’t sure if it was something I could do. I am though. I know our bodies are amazing. I know I can do this, for both my children. Thank you for sharing.

  42. Love this! I am still nursing my just 4 year old, and have taken to telling people I weaned “after 3”, bc they would get so mean if I told them I was still nursing him. This included family, friends, coworkers, and strangers. It just became easier to mislead them. We mostly just nurse at night now, but it is still such a source of comfort to him that we have never tried fully weaning, and have no definite date that we will. We are continuing until it no longer working for one or both of us. Anyway, thank you for this post. It makes me feel better to know I am not alone and that not everyone thinks our choice is disgusting.

  43. I’m so glad I found this. I also bf my three year old and his brand new brother (also named Jack lol). It’s been tough the older one wants to nurse ALL THE TIME and I’ve been coke to losing my mind. It was difficult to find a comfortable position and I feel like I am constantly nursing one of them. It’s nice to know just that I’m not alone!

  44. Thank you for all that you do to advocate for us breastfeeding Mama’s! I only nursed my firstborn until she was 14 months because of pressure to wean her from people who made me feel dirty and or like I was doing something wrong by continuing to nurse a 1 year old. I was a young 19 first time Mama and caved to the pressure. Thank goodness as I grew as a person and a mom, by the time number 3 & 4 came I had much more courage to face adversity! My son was 5 months old when I got pregnant with his brother (yes still exclusively breastfeeding! Crazy! ) anyhow I was determined to continue and not only successfully nursed him through my pregnancy but continued to tandem feed my two sons together until the older one was 3 1/2 .. And he self weaned… Then continued to nurse my other son until he self weaned at 4 1/2. I had all sorts of flack for it, but I didn’t care! It was what was best for me and MY babies! Bless you for speaking up and giving confidence to Mama’s to nurse on! I plan to have another baby and nurse him/her as long as they like, I have no regrets of spending a solid 5 1/2 years breastfeeding my two sons , my only regret was weaning my daughter too soon. I am SO glad I stuck with it this last time! The blessings and benefits of extended breastfeeding are priceless! People who suggest that we are somehow damaging our children by doing what is completely natural and selfless make me SO angry!

    • Sorry I am replying so much, these comments all are just making me feel so happy! I hate that I hide the fact I am still nursing my 4 yo, but I just received so much anger and disgust I had to stop telling anyone, even when asked. If I pretend we have already weaned, then ppl keep their mouths shut more often, even if they dont approve of extended nursing.

  45. Wow. This is beautiful! I admit, it’s incredibly hard to admit to nursing a toddler in today’s society. My son just turned 4, and I (like another reader here) have to tell people that he weaned around 3 because I get all sorts of umwelcome and horrible comments!! But it’s his safe place, his way to know his mommy is right there and he is safe and loved when things overwhelm him, and I welcome it until he is ready to let it go. It’s an incredible thing, breastfeeding. I applaud you!

    • I hear ya. Just remember, no study ever has found negative consequences, psychological or physiological, to extended nursing. Thanks for letting me know there are others out there at the 4y mark!

  46. Heidi S. says

    My almost 4 year old still breastfeeds and despite the naysayers, I treasure this relationship. It’s a safe place for both of us. It’s a way to reconnect after being apart for almost 12 hours when I’m at work and he’s at school/daycare. It’s a tantrum tamer. It’s natural. Thank you for being so public and making me feel less alone nursing my preschooler!

  47. Thank you so much for sharing your story! I have a 2 month old daughter who I plan to nurse until she self-weens, and I already get flack from my stepmother about why I’m still exclusively breastfeeding her, that I should give her formula so I can get a break and have her sleep through the night. Who cares about her sleeping through the night? I have no problem waking up to meet her needs. I got so upset recently that I asked her what her problem was with me nursing, and told her to mind her business. My birth mom is very supportive and so is my husband. My husband reads a lot on the subject. He wants the best for his daughter. And my mom asks questions or accepts being educated when she is misinformed — Thank goodness. Support is so important. It’s so sad that ppl have such a problem with breastfeeding in general. I see so many young mothers nowadays relying on formula and putting their noses up when breastfeeding is mentioned. Some are even offended that a doctor suggested they should bf. Since when did boobies become the last resort? Formula is poison in my eyes. It does nothing. How horrible. Babies need mom’s milk. No matter how old they are. Thanks for getting the conversation started. It has made me even MORE vocal about the subject than I already am.

  48. I took my 2 year old off my breast at 2 when his little brother was born because of all the comments I would get. To date, it’s one of my biggest regrets. There was plenty of room for both and I wish I would have done it the all natural, self weaning way. Thanks for posting this beautiful life story. I will not make the same mistake twice and nurse my baby until we are BOTH ready to let go.

  49. I’m tandem feeding my 4 1/2 year old and my nearly 2 year old. There are many MANY woman out there who let their children naturally wean πŸ™‚

  50. The baby is fine to breast feed. The 3 year old toddler is to big to be breastfeeding and looks uncomfortable and way to big……..he’s practically falling out of your lap. If you’re all of that concerned, why not pump and let him drink it out of a cup? Enough is enough.

    • Meredith says

      Simona, it’s true he’s big, but not too big to nurse. I’m sure he drinks out of cups and eats plenty of food too. While mom’s milk is still nutritional for him, that’s not the primary reason to nurse an older child.It is more of an emotional bond, a way to say I still love and cherish you. Don’t worry, he will wean when he is ready. It doesn’t go on forever. Our society doesn’t welcome extended bf which is why it looks like “enough is enough” to you and unfortunately most of America.

  51. Wow what a beautiful article Abby!!
    I was so amazed to come across this and see others who are embracing extended breast feeding. My Landon is 34 months and showing no signs or desires of weaning… I recently started to discuss weaning with him, because I’m feeling depleted and I was unsure about BF into the Third year, but after reading all of these comments I’ve received a boost of support. My BF experience with my son who is my 2nd child has helped me get in touch with my true inner calling; and that is to educate and support women on/during their breast feeding journey. It’s so natural, so healthy, so comforting for a baby…. It’s the way we were intended to nurture or offspring. Thank you to all BF advocates fighting to bring back the acceptance & normalcy of BF….
    Itis through nourishing and strengthening today’s young, we will enhance the generations of tomorrow!!
    Keep following your hearts Ladies; do what’s right for your baby & your family.

  52. Stephanie says

    Im still breastfeeding my 23 month old and am 29 weeks pregnant. I plan to tandum nurse as long as I need to.

  53. I’m a firm supporter of breastfeeding, this is purely a curiosity question. My son self-weaned at 13 months; he would gag on my breast, push me away and ask for a cup. He fought me tooth and nail and it broke my heart so I stopped trying and he never looked back. In a toddler/preschooler, if they are having a “nursing aversion,” isn’t it really them telling you that they are simply done? Why push him to go back to breast if he is displaying aversion? What cues did you have that he wasn’t just trying to be a big boy now?

    • It looks to me like she meant that SHE is having a nursing aversion and she doesn’t want to nurse him and feels “touched out”, and that her older son is wanting to nurse more now.

  54. Steve McPhail says

    As a very strong supporter of extended breastfeeding; I just wanted to say that I highly applaud you for allowing your 3 year old to continue breastfeeding. No matter what others say or think, you just do what you think is best for your infant and toddler. Besides, the longer you continue breastfeeding your 3 year old, the less likely he/she will become susceptible to various illnesses (allergies, colds, earaches, flu, etc…)

  55. I’m nursing my 3.5 year old and 15 month old. My husband is starting to say that the 3.5 year old should wean soon. She only nurses at night (that’s all I can handle and she only naps a few times a week). She still nurses 20+ minutes at 3.5 years old. My 15 month old is still nursing on demand and I feel like a mother cat or dog nursing a litter because they crawl on me for nursing.

  56. I love the pics.. I too still nurse my 3 year old. I get people that feel that they should give me their opinion some people are pro some people are Con but at the end of the day it just matters what Luca’s needs and Lucas loves to breastfeed he loves to go to sleep and put the boob in his mouth and call it a night I mean I don’t blame him lol.. when he was younger that’s honestly the only thing that he would take when he was sick its the only thing that he’ll take so in a sense yes my breasts have paid the price but its awesome I haven’t had to go to the doctor because he’s dehydrated because he’s sick or doesn’t feel like he wants to eat anything while he’s sick then we just breastfeed and its awesome so I thank you for making this website I thank you for posting up your pictures I think it’s awesome it’s just one little punch for all of us mom that still love our kids enough to go through this

  57. Keep up the great work, Mama! I’m right there with you (currently tandem nursing an 18mo & a 4 year old!). You’re right, it is absolutely not easy, but it’s real and it’s what works for us.

  58. Kay Hagan-Haller says

    Abby, the reason I continue to read your posts when I am a grandmother and have not nursed for about 29 years is simple. You don’t judge anyone else. You accept others where they are and support their decisions. You encourage moms to use their hearts to do the best they can at any time. Please keep sharing and encouraging!!!

  59. Vanessa W says

    Thank you for posting this and your beautiful photos! Our son who’s almost 26 months old now only nurses 2 -3 times per day, and is slowly weaning himself. His teething is getting pretty bad where he is clenching his jaw a lot now when we nurse at night, so I have a hard time explaining that he’s hurting me when he does that. I’m hoping he’ll continue to wean himself, so I know the battle you must be going through with the little one too. It’s a safe, warm, loving place for my son, and I don’t want to take it away from him.

  60. I know this is old but I wanted to say thanks. I’m currently nursing my 3.5 yo whilst 8m pregnant. I’ve been sore the whole pregnancy and his recent insistence on nursing (and twiddling!) every hour is driving me nuts!! However, you’re absolutely right that he needs this from me right now. I know he’s nervous about how things will change when the babies come and I need to let him have his safe place until he no longer needs it.

  61. Late comment, but I’m nursing a 4 year old and a 6 month old… Just doing what seems right for us today.

  62. You wrote this article during my struggles with trying to breast-feed my newborn. He was born June 1, 2014 and the first few months were so difficult because he had a bad latch. He then started nursing at almost 3 months old and is still nursing at almost 3. I did not think I would ever say this but I’m sort of ready for him to be done. He is very demanding and has to have both out at the same time. I know that when the time comes and when he does when it will be bittersweet.

  63. I love this!!! My 3 year old daughter is still breastfeeding even though I’ve returned to work just about 2 years ago. I pump while I’m at work and then we nurse again once I’ve picked her up after work. I’ve had a few people say that she shouldn’t be nursing still, however I let it roll of my shoulders. I know she’ll stop when she is ready. God made it for her and I won’t take that away.

  64. I love this! My son, Rowan, will be 3 in January, and he’s showing NO signs of even wanting to stop nursing. He eats all kinds of food (even more of a variety than his brother who weaned far earlier), but he just wants the comfort because it feels safe. Nothing wrong with that! I live in an ultraconservative town, and I’m not ultraconservative, so I frequently get dirty comments and looks, but it’s not about them. R’s dad and I are no longer together, but he’s been trying to get me to wean for nearly two years now and says snide remarks. I admit his baiting gets to me deeper than the strangers’, but I’m still going to do what’s best for us. I think your post is beautiful and really shows your strength and love as a mother. Thank you for sharing your journey.

  65. Wow you are a great Beautiful mom !!! I would love to be your child !!!


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