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Wean That Toddler

I’ve noticed that anytime I speak about hardships in breastfeeding the first thing some people say is “it looks like it’s time to wean!” This demonstrates to me a gross misunderstanding of weaning.

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Weaning is a process. Usually, when done gently, you don’t just wake up one day, decide to wean, tell him no more boobie and solve all of your problems. Weaning is done over a period of time, taking into consideration your own feelings as well as the child’s. Weaning can be traumatic for a child. For many children breastfeeding is everything. Weaning is a choice to shift a child’s entire world.

Weaning is also a decision. A big decision. A final decision. Many children wean on their own with no intervention from the parent. Some parents decide before this happens that they want to intervene as a result of their own feelings. This is a decision that can only be made by the parent. Weaning can be traumatic for both mother and child. Because this decision is based on personal feelings it is impossible for anyone to recommend it to another person. It’s actually harmful and inappropriate to suggest to another person that they wean their nursling. This breastfeeding relationship is unique to each set of mother and child.

You see, no matter the issues a mother is disclosing to you it is impossible for you to know if this is the right decision for her and her child. She is possibly struggling quite a bit, but weaning may open another door to more intense struggles if done before a mother and child are ready.

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This comes up quite a lot when discussing nursing aversion. I hear that it must be my body telling me it’s time to “wean that toddler.” In fact, nursing aversion is more likely linked to hormonal changes that happen anytime in a mother’s life due to countless factors if not pregnancy and postpartum. The reality is we don’t know what causes it. It’s an intense struggle to manage. Actually, it’s such an intense struggle to manage that making a decision to wean at the wrong time could cause even more undue stress on a mother and nursling.

We must stop slinging this word around. Saying “just wean!” is like saying “just breastfeed!” If only it were that easy. If only the decision and process had anything to do with you. It’s easy to say when you are not the one making it happen.

Weaning is not a joke. It is not an answer to anything. It is not a quick fix. It is a personal decision made by mother and child at a time when they feel they can do so successfully and positively without trauma. We want people to respect our rights to breastfeed, breastfeed in public, breastfeed beyond infancy, co-sleep, etc. We, in turn, must be willing to respect the rights of a mother to make the decision for herself and her child about if and when weaning is right for them.

In short, quit telling people what to do.

Abby Theuring, MSW

*Photos by Maggie Cuprisin Photography. Please visit her website and Facebook page. 

Comments

  1. Roxanne says:

    100% correct. I’ve been told to stop breastfeeding since my baby was 2 weeks old. He is now 2 years old. Good thing I’m not good at following instructions 😛

    • I was told when my son got teeth to ween. He is now 15 months old and happily still breastfeeding. I get odd looks from my in-laws but oh well. I am proud of you for following your own ideals instead of others. 🙂

  2. Trista W. says:

    I have an almost 3 month old and a 28 month old that I am nursing. So many people have told him since I was pregnant last time to wean my older child. While I do have days that I feel I can’t nurse her anymore, I then remember that all she has ever known is nursing and I don’t want her to feel just because her brother is here that she loses her “milkies” I admit it is hard but I don’t think weaning is the answer for us. I have to thank you Abby ever since you had your newest little one you have written posts that are spot on with how I am feeling and the struggles I am having since having another baby to breast feed, seeing your posts helps me stay strong and focused on the good I am providing to both my children! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for all you do.

  3. My son is 3yrs 2mths( same age I stopped nursing my first). I have been feeling ready for some time to wean, but feel he is not ready. I tandem nursed for 19mths. So I’ve been nursing non stop for 4yrs 9mths. Not sure what to do. Just wanted to share. Thanks for the blog I love it. Most people don’t bother telling me anymore to wean as they know my response lol.

    • Samantha says:

      You’re awesome Julie!!

    • Gently discouraging worked for me. I was ready to wean my 2 year old but he wasn’t convinced. So I’d let him nurse morning and evening, but mid-day I’d say it wasn’t time, and he accepted. Then sometimes my husband would start the kids’ morning and by the time I came out my 2 year old was focused in cereal, not nursing. We never had a stand-off. The process of gentle discouragement worked painlessly for us.

      • My mom did the same thing with my now 13 yr old brother. She stopped nursing at 4 yrs old roughly. I believe the last 2 yrs he was only nursed m & n. Due to my mother going back to work…but no problems either.

        • And unfortunately I didn’t get to nurse my son for more than a month. Due to him getting sick from my milk. :’-( if and when I have my next one I really hope to be able to breastfeed.

          • Catherine says:

            Next time try going dairy free during pregnancy. All mine were intolerant and i wasn’t able to nurse my first 3 because i didn’t know what caused it. #4 is a happy boobie baby!

  4. Samantha says:

    You’re wise beyond your years. Ppl are so rude sometimes.. I’m preg, nursing my almost 2.5 yr old. Everyone and their mother is telling me to wean. Get some edumacation ppl!!! Tandem nursing exists you know….. So do extremely secure and happy toddlers! Keep up the nursies girl!! Lucky kids you got there 😉
    Keep your kickass articles + pics streaming in!! Xo

  5. I am still trying to figure out why people are so wrapped up in other people’s lives.

    I get nursing aversion a week before my period each period. It is the most horrible feeling in the world. It makes me feel like weaning each time. But, I never do. Because WE are not ready. He is not, I am not. Its a relationship between him & I. Not me, him & the rest of the world.

    • My daughter weaned on her own about 6 months ago, at the age of 5 years, 3 months. For the last year or two I had what I guess would be nursing aversion when PMSing, as well. Mostly it was a physical discomfort, because my nipples were super-sensitive. Some months it hurt, others it felt like she had a cat tongue, others it was just annoying as hell, and some months it was just fine. After a few months of it, though, I put together that it was associated with my period, and it really helped to know that it would only last a few days. Also, my daughter was four, mostly just nursing at bedtime/wake-up and already knew all about periods, so I was able to explain it to her, and she was (sort of) understanding on the nights when I had to have her switch sides a few times, or wait until reading was over, or unlatch and give me a little break.

      • Beth, your post made me feel so much better.

        My son is almost 5, and for the past year or so he has pretty much just been nursing at night before bed. I still don’t really get a period most months (combo IUD + nursing, I guess) so I don’t know if there is a connection, but there are definitely some days where it is not comfortable, and I have just recently started feeling (most of the time) like I am ready to stop –but he really isn’t, so I just trudge along. Not sure how I am going to proceed if he really isn’t ready, and I really am. I just keep hoping he’ll decide to stop on his own..

        People have been telling me since he was about 6 months old that “it is time to ween”. Some get very forceful and opinionated about it, and so many people were just mean/disgusted/cruel when they found out I was still nursing him at 2 (and 3), that by the time he reached 4 I just started lying about it to the people around me. They’ll ask how long I nursed, an I usually answer “somewhere around 3 or 4, I think.” I just couldn’t deal with the judgment and just plain hateful responses anymore. The handful of people that know I still nurse him still periodically tell me that it is *really* time to ween.

        Thanks for this whole post, and all the comments. It really lifted my spirits today!

  6. My son is only 11months and lately I get strong nursing aversions. I have no idea when I’ll wean. I go back to work in a few weeks which might end up starting the process. Some days I don’t feel ready to stop, and others I feel certian it’s our time to be done. What I DO know is it’s not anyone’s business but mine and my sons.

  7. Jacqueline says:

    What a perfect article! It is like you knew how hard this week nursing my 2.5 year kid has been due to so many people giving unwanted opinions and advice. You are such an encouragement!

  8. Meredith says:

    as a proud veteran of extened/full-term breastfeeding (she nursed to 4.5, and self-weaned; she’s 9 now), i commend you for writing about this, and posting the picture. yes, yes, and HELL YES! and congrats on those beautiful boys!

  9. Meredith says:

    ps: that was *years*, in case that wasn’t clear. 🙂

  10. Thank you. I couldn’t have said it better.

  11. My big boy turns 3 next week, he has been only nursing at night time for about 8 months, now sometimes he forgets to nurse at all, mommy has to come to grips with weaning!

  12. Your amazing. My sons are 18m apart. While I nursed through my pregnancy I was told to wean countless times. My son got sick when he was 19m first time ever. He wouldn’t eat or drink for days!! Thank god for my boobs! He would have ended up hospitalized otherwise. He’s now 2 years and 5 months, were still tandem nursing! 🙂

  13. I tandem nurse my two boys, oldest is two and a half, and the baby is 11 months. My girls weren’t breastfed beyond a year, so people thought I had gone nuts when I nursed Lucas through my pregnancy with Levi. Would weaning be easier on me? Some days, yes. But it’s SO worth it for him. My husband took a job back in March, 3 hours from our home and he was only home the weekends…Lucas had the hardest time with the separation, and nursing helped him immensely with the transition. We are back together now and moved into our new place and he is nursing a lot less frequently. I fully intend to let him self wean. 🙂

  14. I was “forced” to wean my oldest at about 15 months. My now ex decided that was long enough and the fights over it sure weren’t helping anything – I gave in. I wasn’t ready even tho nursing had been difficult. I determined to wean my 2nd child when I was ready and I set the end at 2 years. When that mark became closer and closer – I got more and more upset. My father told me that perhaps I wasn’t ready to wean. Once I decided he was right, I relaxed but I ended up weaning just after 25 months because the kids had to go weekends to my ex. Now, I have a baby with my current husband and she is nursing. I refuse to set a time to wean. He thinks that 18 months is old enough but agrees that I can quit when our daughter is ready. He sees that it “cures” the everyday stresses, owies and uh-oh’s. He also says she’s the happiest baby he’s ever seen. He has learned about nursing and how healthy our daughter is and is a supporter of us. I think that the all day nursing sessions in the beginning made him concerned he wouldn’t bond with the baby because he didn’t get to bottle feed her. Once I included him – he held her with his arms wrapped around me or laid curled up around us or her – his viewpoint changed… however, I still will cry the day she weans herself…. she’s my last baby

  15. Thank you.
    I am tridem nursing my 4.5 year old, 3 yr old, and 5 week old. Although I have to put time limits on the big ones nursing, they still psychologically need it. They had been only nursing before bed for months, now that my milk is fully in, they are asking to nurse a lot more – sometimes I say yes, sometimes they have to wait.
    Few people know I still nurse the big ones, I don’t let that info out because I don’t want to hear their opinion on weaning them. It’s not their choice, they don’t get a vote.

    • Right on! You are awesome, and I completely relate to the keeping the nursing facts to yourself –sometimes it is the only way to stay sane. 🙂

  16. I’m currently nursing my 22 month old and my 8 week old. It feels like you are writing about my life. Last week I was telling a friend that ever since the baby came, my son wants to nurse every time she nurses. Some days he even nurses more than she does. My friend’s response was that I should just tell him no and stop nursing him. It is neither that simple, not what I want to do. I just needed someone to listen and acknowledged that it can be tough. Weaning is not the answer people seem to think it is.

    • I can relate! Though I only have one child, 9 months, who’s perfectly capible of going a few hours without nursing I’ll nurse him every time he goes for my breasts… which is often! People see my frustration at times but honestly I get upset even thinking about weaning in the future- that they don’t see. Those not in our shoes don’t understand!

  17. Stephanie says:

    I failed at breastfeeding my first and fought like hell to breastfeed the second successfully. Now she is 14 months and we are weaning because it’s right for us. But even so, I war with myself over it because of my knowledge of the benefits of extended breastfeeding, the stigma associated with it, and the personal circumstances in my life that influence my decision. This is a beautiful perspective all the way around. “Just weaning” when you fought so hard to do something so important to you is incredibly difficult and shouldn’t be addresses flippantly.

  18. Thank you for being a passionate vocal voice of reason regarding nursing, newborn stage and beyond. You help empower us other mothers.

    Extended breastfeeding has many advantages, providing physical, mental, and emotional benefits for both babies and mothers. Due to it’s intimate nature it helps with bonding between mother and child through non-verbal communication and physical contact. The role of touch assists in the hormone production and balance in the mother; for the baby, it teaches and enforces the concept of stability in human relationships while their basic needs are met. The evolving nature of the milk protects against major illnesses in both mother and child such as some cancers and immune disorders; it’s antibacterial properties can be used to help cracked nipples, scrapes, and conjunctivitis. It’s importance has yet to be fully understood and cannot be replicated.

  19. Thank you for this….it made me cry. My twins are nearing 3yrs and my partner is urging me to stop saying it is “unhealthy”. It is heartbreaking for me and so complicated. Thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  20. A THOUSAND THANK-YOUS. I can’t BEGIN to tell you how much this essay means to me, and how it comes to me at exactly the moment I need it, when the whole world seems to misunderstand the weight of the feelings and realities surrounding weaning a toddler!

  21. You are doing awesome! Your kiddos have the best momma they possibly could♡ Thank you so much for your voice to normalize breastfeeding for all and to encourage mothers at all stages. My kiddo is 31 months old and still nurses multiple times a day, and as much as I want breastfeeding beyond a year or two to be mainstream, the truth is I’m a closet breastfeeder. 🙁 I know I shouldn’t, but sometimes I feel embarrassed. My close friends know and if somebody asks I’ll tell them, but I don’t bring it up. Culture has affected me even though I try not to let it. Thank you for your efforts that encourage the rest of us to step out of our hiding places. I’m thinking it might be time to share your article and let the world know my little one is still nursing….

  22. I’ve been lucky enough that very few people have mentioned the word “wean” around me. I don’t mention difficult patches to anyone other than my husband or friends who understand because I don’t want to open the door to those comments, but this probably creates a false idea of what nursing an older child is like.

    My MIL did make a comment while I was pregnant & nursing my then two year old. “It looks like you’re having a hard time weaning him for the pregnancy.” I told her that we had no intentions of forcing any of our babies to wean. There haven’t been any other comments & I’m now nursing a 9 month old & 3.25 year old.

  23. Weaning is most definitely a process and I am so proud that my baby was able to self-wean, which she calmly and peacefully did at 13 months. A little earlier than I wanted but I am grateful that she chose when to do it. http://twoparentsimply.blogspot.com/2014/08/when-they-wean-on-their-own.html

  24. So….any ideas for how to wean? My intention was to allpw my almost four year old to self wean but I feel its time to gently nudge her in the direction of weaning…would love some help or ideas!

    • Scoobie, have you asked your child when they think they’ll stop? My girl will be 4 in a few weeks, she says she’ll continue when she’s 4, stop when she’s 5. (Right now, 5 year olds are the epitome of grownupness, since she’ll be 5 when she starts school). Wether she will stop around her 5th birthday or not, only time will tell, But the thought that there’s an endpoint helps me. Even having conversations about stopping some time in the future will give you an idea where their head is at.

  25. I’m a mother of three beautiful girls… 17 yrs, 13 yrs, and 16 mnths. I’m also expecting a forth in January. People ask me all the time if I’m still breast feeding. They don’t dare tell me I should stop, but they are curious about my plans. I’m sure they say things behind my back, but they know better than to voice their opinions to me. Plus my husband is big and burly and supports me %100. Stick to it until you are all ready to move on. This is only a very small fraction of his life, enjoy it while it lasts.

  26. I nursed five children a total of 17 years (yes, I nursed 17 years straight with only two short breaks of a month or so). Only only child weaned early, at 2 1/2. The others all weaned between four and five. I nursed during two pregnancies and tandem nursed two sets of kids.

    I am trained as a midwife and health educator and I remember attending a conference when the kids were little where we were talking about the biological age of weaning for humans (hard to determine because we are such cultural creatures, meaning our culture dictates many of this biological act’s limits) and the best guess is that it’s around the time that the seven-year molars come in. That’s gathered from looking at other similar mammals, etc. if you look at and read about other, less westernized cultures, it looks like the “norm” (if there is one) for a weaning age might actually be around five in a cultural setting. Of course, nursing at each stage is so different that it’s hard to compare. Babies and toddlers need much time, but older nurslings are very different, not terrible demanding on a daily basis. It’s a relationship—and the natural place to start working relationships out, the give and take that a toddler isn’t ready for but an older child will learn.

    I have found that I could talk with my older children and determine the best way to go forward together. My oldest and I were down to nursing once a day when she was three (and I was expecting her sister) and she weaned of her own accord on her fourth birthday… (She actually told me that was going the be her last day…and it was)

    A post script: my oldest is expecting her first! baby! ll of my nurslings are weaned, happy, confident, independent people. Everyone wants to know why they are so self assured. Could it be they never had to wonder if they were loved? That the beginning was so solid that they could go off without looking of their shoulders? I am not sure, but I would do it again in a heartbeat. (They are now 12, 18, 20, 22, 24).

  27. Totally agree! As a mama tand nursing a one yr old and three yr old I know how rough that nursing aversion is! I’ve struggled withy own feelings with it and have bottled them up out of fear of that dreaded statement. It’s a shame especially when you hear it from breastfeeding advocates that you’d normally turn to for support. Beautiful tandem nursing picture by the way!! 😀

  28. Omg….anything after 2 is pushing it. I breastfed all 3 of my boys and loved it…but come on now, 4.5? That’s just ridiculous. Yall need help. Fr fr.

    • Julia Jason says:

      After reading all those inspirational comments it made be feel so lucky to be part of something so great. I am nursing my 3year old who is definitely not ready to wean and doing so early would hurt him. I had no plans to nurse for so long but it just feels right ( even though difficult often ). After reading brit’s comment that “breast feeding a 4.5 year old is ridiculous and we y’all need help.” Well you are right brit we do need help, and support and love, as it is really hard work breast feeding a toddler. And it can be ridiculous, because of the way people treat you with thoughtless comments and weird looks. Even from other mothers, which is the most hurtful of all. Whether we breast feed or not let’s be united in our motherhood to do what is right for our family’s and respect each others choices, even if they are not the same as yours. If we are strong together, our families will surely benifit. Love to all mothers, children and fathers !!!

  29. i breastfed my daughter 10 mins after she was born she weaned herself just after her 2nd birthday ive got 4 days until im full term with child no.2 i was happy to carry on feeding my daughter but she decided she didnt want to it was up to her, the baby due will be breastfed aswel until they are ready 🙂 best decision i have ever made 🙂 i dont care who slates breastfeeding mothers at the end of the day thats what boobies are for !!

  30. i breastfed my daughter 10 mins after she was born she weaned herself just after her 2nd birthday ive got 4 days until im full term with child no.2 i was happy to carry on feeding my daughter but she decided she didnt want to it was up to her, the baby due will be breastfed aswel until they are ready 🙂 best decision i have ever made 🙂 i dont care who slates breastfeeding mothers at the end of the day thats what boobies are for !!

  31. I’m having an awful time nursing my 2 yo lately, I want him to wean so badly but I don’t want to upset him… but the nursing aversion is so intense at this point. I’ve struggled with d-mer this whole time but its getting progressively worse. I cry every single time hes latched. But to him, nursing is everything and I can’t rip that away. :'(

  32. Its nice to see so many comments from EBF mom’s. My daughter will be four next month and is mostly bf at night its nice to see that i am not the only one it makes one feel abnormal. I don’t any more

  33. My son just turned 4 in June. He nurses about 3 to 4 times a day still. I was ready a year ago to wean, but he is not yet ready. Breastfeeding is his comfort and safe place. People are always shocked when they hear he is still breastfed. I try to educate them if they are willing to learn or I ignore them.

  34. I have been hearing since my daughter turned one that I need to wean her. I find it rude and no ones business, it’s so personal….just lije deciding to breastfeed is. My daughter is 22 months now and we’re still nursing. 🙂

  35. Sound like the moms are unwilling to let their children go. I breast fed my children. Weaning is an easy process as long as mom is supportive of it. You do your child a huge disservice by clinging too long. Their are other just as special ways to bond. We made special story times where each child picked a book and sat on my lap while i read the book they chose. I am not saying wean too soon. Every child should be breastfed until at least a year old.

    • I think you’ve missed the point Tina- it isn’t about the mothers. It’s not them not wanting to let go. It’s about the child deciding when they’re ready to cease.

  36. Julia Jason says:

    The average age of weaning around the world is 5 years old. For millions of years we have breast fed and co-slept with

  37. Julia Jason says:

    Our young. Babies are born genetically expecting to be treated in this way. It is sad that there is not enough support for learning to breast feed and for doing it full term. It is our human right, and we need to respect that and help each other without judgment. If women had more support, I believe there would be more full term breast feeding because mothers would have the time and energy to do this demanding job, that is beneficial on so many levels. If you are interested read ‘ magical child’ by Joseph Chiltern Pierce, a truly inspirational book for any human.

  38. Anonymous says:

    So much truth in this article.
    It may seem odd that someone like me (a 19 year old with no kids) would be on this site, reading this article, but the truth is that I was witness to two very traumatic weaning experiences, and unfortunately, it changed forever my perspective on breastfeeding. The events of that trauma haunt me to this day, as strange as that may sound.

    When I was 10 yrs old, my 18 mo. old brother and I were forcefully separated from our mother for a period of 54 days. He was breastfeeding full time and we were both very attached to her. He co-slept with her and nursed to sleep every night. The separation was trauma in itself, but I was the only one witness to the anguish and bewilderment in my baby brother’s eyes when he, surrounded by strangers, looked me in the eyes, the only person left he had to trust, and cried for our mother, asking to nurse.
    The next day, he was taken away from me.

    My brother was weaned cold-turkey through the experience and treated my mother with distrust and a confused sort of anger after that. Their relationship has never been the same.

    Fast-forward three years. My mother has another child, a baby boy. I’m 13 now, and life has gone back to normal somewhat after the pain of our earlier years. The months went by and the baby was still nursing happily at 18-24 months. I was fiercely protective of his nursing relationship with my mother because of what had happened to my other brother. Thus, when my stepmother started trying to sabotage that relationship, I became furious and enraged. For some reason, she had developed the assumption that my little brother was being spoiled and started dropping not-so-subtle hints that he should be weaned. My mother, a quiet, passive woman, said nothing, but continued nursing him as he asked. She didn’t react when my stepmother and aunt (who had joined the slandering parade) would loudly insist that he “get off! what a big baby! he’s too big for that!” My stepmother, now fully convinced that my brother was in need of some “firm discipline” started whisking him away at every opportunity. She would come to me and tell me that the boy needed a firm hand, that he needed to be weaned, etc. etc. (I won’t comment on the nature of her own children) I was furious; unable to handle the overwhelming fury I felt, I would go to my mother and cry almost every night. I was angry at the gall, at the “harmful and inappropriate” insistence, at the disrespect to my mother, at the interruption of what was now to me a sacred relationship – it COULDN’T be broken because that’s what happened to my other brother.
    The misery lasted for more than a year. My mother handled it as best as she knew how but unable to bear the continued reproach and seeing what it was doing to me, my brother was day-weaned by 2.5 and fully weaned by 3. It wasn’t what my mother wanted and certainly wasn’t what my brother wanted. But their wants and needs were apparently meaningless.

    My stepmother now has a 6 mo. old baby boy, and I fight the fury and the incense I feel every time I see her pull down her shirt to nurse him. Every time she coos at him, every time she smiles tearfully at me and says how she can’t wait till I have children so she can see me enjoy them and what a BEAUTIFUL relationship breastfeeding is and what a bond it is between mother and child. No one gives her any trouble – she’ll probably nurse him past four years old, just like she did his older brother, and no one will say a word. It’s not fair. The pain of my brother’s youngest years of life (both brothers) haunt me almost daily. I’ve cried on behalf of my mother, who was so misused, and for my brothers, who’s young hearts and infant-like needs were so cruelly stepped on and abused. I pray and ask God to give me the grace to forgive and to let it go so that I can heal. My brothers don’t remember, but I do. I worry about my future children (if I have any) and what I’ll do when it comes to breastfeeding. I look for articles such as this one, trying to find a way to validate how I feel, how I felt, and more and more I see how right I was all along – how wrong it was, the things that happened, how they happened. I try to forget but its not easy. This certainly isn’t the only trauma I have to heal from, but its one that I must confront more often than most, what with my stepmother and all.

    Anyway. I’m sharing this anonymously because I’ve never shared this with anyone before and I wouldn’t want to hurt any loved ones by it. It’s a secret pain I carry with me daily and one I hoped to be healed from soon. Prayers are appreciated <3

  39. Heather Fitzgerald says:

    Well said! I have been told by my mom, sister and my mother in law for months now that I need to start weaning my 14 month old. First it was give him formula he’s too small, then oh he’s getting teeth, time to start weaning and now it’s well you should have started weaning him off a long time ago. Fact is just like you said he LOVES his boobies. He comfort nurses quite often. He will walk up pull boobie out, latch on and pop right back off! I think it’s just what gives him comfort. Knowing mama and boobies are here. Recently the thought of weaning has crossed my mind because it can be draining when he’s on me all lull day long just because. But when I try to distract him and tell him no boobie right now, he gets very upset. Then I give in because I feel bad. I think he doesn’t know why I am saying no right now. He don’t get that mama has eczema and an infection on HIS boobie. So I suck it up, cringe and give him his boobies.

  40. Help! I live with my mother-in-law. She decided it was tie for my 20 month old to be weaned. It was written between the lines that our continued home depended on it. My husband is no help. All he does is tell me what to look forward to once “it’s over”. Most of what he says I don’t want. I am outnumbered and helpless and losing the battle. I feel useless.

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